Friday, 25 July 2014

Fifty Shades Of Grey Adorable Animals: The Version You Aren't Embarrassed To Read In Public

Christian Grey -- eh, yeah he's easy on the eyes. But we're in such a deep, all-consuming love affair with our charming furry companions below that we hardly noticed that the "Fifty Shades of Grey" trailer dropped Thursday.



We give you our true obsession -- Fifty Shades Of Grey adorable animals.



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Eva Longoria Tells America Latino Doesn't Mean Immigrant

LOS ANGELES -- Eva Longoria has a message for America.



The actress, honored for activism at the National Council of La Raza’s Awards Gala at the Los Angeles Convention Center on Tuesday night, explained during her acceptance speech why she's been hosting and executive producing the group’s ALMA Awards for the past seven years.



NCLR, the country’s largest Hispanic advocacy organization, gave Longoria the Raul Yzaguirre President’s Award. The group's president, Janet MurguĂ­a, said the star deserved the recognition for using “her platform to advocate for issues of concern for our community.”



Longoria has helped Latinas gain access to education and become entrepreneurs through her foundation, according to a video that introduced honorees. After ABC stopped broadcasting the awards gala in 2009, the actress was key to reviving the ceremony on MSNBC.



“I remember when we first started, having to explain to ABC who Pitbull was -- us going, ‘He has the Number One song in the nation!’ and they were saying, ‘In Spanish-language?’ We go, ‘No, in the nation!,'” Longoria said in her acceptance speech.



The ALMA Awards, she added, are not just a glamorous evening with big names, but a moment to highlight the contributions Hispanics make to American culture.



“It is an opportunity for us to shape the narrative of how this country defines us and how we recognize the contributions that Latino artists make to American pop culture,” Longoria continued. “And it’s an opportunity for people to see we are not just what you see on the news and for people to know that we’re just not synonymous with the word ‘immigrant.’ We’re not synonymous with ‘drug cartel.’ We’re not synonymous with 'not from here.’ We are so much more.”



Los Angeles Supervisor Gloria Molina, activist Angelica Salas, journalist Jose Diaz-Balart, and former baseball star Manny Mota also were honored on the final night of the NCLR’s annual conference.



Longoria closed by recalling her childhood growing up near the Texas-Mexico border and reflected on the current child immigration crisis.



“Little is being done to understand who these children are, where they’re coming from, what they’re facing,” Longoria said. “They had the bad luck to be born in poor, violent countries in Central America. These children are running for their lives and they believe that the United States will protect them. And ‘will we?’ is the question, and I don’t know.”





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Thursday, 24 July 2014

Illinois GOP Gubernatorial Candidate Used Doctored News Headlines In TV Ad

Bruce Rauner (R), an Illinois businessman and gubernatorial candidate, is being called out for running a television ad with some altered news headlines about incumbent Gov. Pat Quinn (D), according to the Chicago Tribune.



In the ad, called "Headlines," the Rauner campaign shortened and even changed headlines that it attributed to various news organizations. One headline originally read "Quinn, Rauner spar on education in 1st 2014 event," and was altered in Rauner's ad to read “Quinn education cuts lead to teacher layoffs and larger class sizes.”



Another headline said "Quinn doubles down on tax hike gamble" and was used in Rauner's ad with the word "gamble" dropped.



The Chicago Tribune says three other headlines were altered in the ad as well.



Quinn said on Thursday that the ad, which first appeared the day before, highlights what he views as Rauner's "pattern of dishonesty."



Rauner spokesman Mike Schrimpf said in an email to The Associated Press that "the TV ad does not say everything that appears on screen was a headline."



"Due to time and space constraints, some of the phrases had to be condensed," he added.



Quinn is seen as vulnerable in his re-election bid. His anti-violence initiative is facing a federal probe due to allegations of mismanagement.



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Here's Why You Don't Want To Drop Off Your Used Clothes In Those Sidewalk Donation Bins

A growing number of sidewalk donation bins in New York City claiming to collect clothing for the poor are actually benefiting for-profit companies.



The New York Times reported on the scheme earlier this month, and found that the graffiti-covered bins that are illegally placed on sidewalks not only function as inconvenient eyesores throughout the city's neighborhoods, but also help greedy businesses sell used clothing in bulk to thrift stores and retailers overseas.















"They have become the bane of our existence," Kathryn Garcia, New York City's sanitation commissioner, told The New York Times. "We have seen a significant uptick in the number of clothing bins placed illegally on public sidewalks. A dramatic increase."



What does a "dramatic increase" look like? In 2010, the city placed warning tags for removal on 91 illegal bins and ended up confiscating 10. In the fiscal year 2014 (which ended last month), more than 2,006 bins were given a warning tag and 132 were confiscated.



New York City is not the exception. National trends have reflected similar patterns of scamming from coast-to-coast throughout recent years.



In 2012, Goodwill officials complained that nationwide donation bins operated by for-profit recycling businesses or nonprofits only giving a fraction of donated items to those who need it most were taking away from donations that would actually benefit the poor, USA Today reported.



The increase in misleading donation bins has led to city government crackdowns across the U.S., from California to Illinois to Florida.



"Take that extra step and find a charity or nonprofit that can really use it," CharityWatch founder Daniel Borochoff had said to USA Today. "Then you can feel good that what's given is being used."



To find a Goodwill near you, visit the organization's website.



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Obama Calls Out American Companies For 'Gaming The System'

In a CNBC interview on Wednesday, President Barack Obama took aim at corporate inversions -- deals where a U.S. company keeps its operations at home, but moves its formal address overseas to avoid paying taxes.



"Companies thrive in the United States in part because they benefit from the best university system in the world, the best infrastructure," Obama said. "There are a whole range of benefits that have helped to build companies, create value, create profits. For you to continue to benefit from that entire architecture that helps you thrive, but move your technical address simply to avoid paying taxes, is neither fair, nor is it something that's going to be good for the country over the long term."



Watch Obama's comments in the video above.



Corporate inversions are legal, and companies say they engage in them because the U.S. tax rate is higher than in other countries. But inversions open up a host of ways to permanently limit, or even eliminate, any American taxes paid by companies that operate in the United States.



"You're just gaming the system," Obama said Wednesday. "You are an American company."







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How To Tell The Difference Between 'In Like' And 'In Love,' According To Science

We all know there's a difference between being "in like" with someone and being "in love," but it's often hard to tell how the other person feels about you.



A new study about love and lust, recently published in Psychological Science, discovered how to tell if a person is feeling the romantic, long-term will-you-marry-me kind of love or the more common I-just-want-to-have-sex-with-you sexual lust.



It turns out, the answer lies in how they look at you.



Researchers from the University of Chicago conducted two studies on a group of heterosexual undergrads. In the first study, participants looked at a set of 120 photographs of couples and were asked if the photos elicited feelings of romantic love or sexual desire. Sexual desire was defined as an increase in sexual thoughts and fantasies toward a target, whereas love was defined as a sentimental and tender state that made participants long for a union.



Afterwards, the participants were shown the same photographs and asked simply to look at them and think about their feelings. While students were gazing at the photographs, their eye movements were tracked and recorded to determine where on the photo they fixated most and for how long.



In the second study, participants were given 80 photographs of individuals of the opposite sex and asked if they could possibly feel love toward or lust toward them. Again, their eye movements were tracked.



At the end of both studies, the results were pretty clear: "Subjects were more likely to fixate on the face when making decisions about romantic love," the researchers wrote. "Judgments that involved lust elicited more eye fixations toward the body."



Indeed, as the authors point out, "Mutual eye gaze is one of the most reliable markers of love between couples."



So if your S.O. spends more time looking at your face than looking at your butt, odds are good that he or she is in it for the long haul.











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"Give Peace a Chance": A NaĂŻve But Heartfelt Playlist

"War is hell," said General Sherman. My late great father Stanley Wild -- a Naval officer and World War II vet -- put it a little differently to me growing up. "David, you should stay the hell away from war," Dad told me. "You would NOT do well in it."



Dad knew what he was talking about.



In truth, my own worldview in matters of war and peace was shaped as much by the Beatles and Bob Dylan as by anyone else. Working on the The Beatles: The Night That Changed America - A Grammy Salute earlier this year -- for which I am feel proud and fortunate to an Emmy nominee -- I had a golden opportunity to listen to a lot of Beatles in 2014, and beyond the Fab Four's singularly enduring musical genius, the underlying sense of love as the driving force in all good things in this life remains yet another powerful reason that this music still resonates today. So I say "Peace and love" is the best kind of cliché -- one that we can't hear and feel enough from my hopelessly naïve perspective.



So with all the tragic violence in The Middle East today and The Cold War being crudely reheated by Putin, here is one man's naĂŻve but heartfelt playlist for Peace. It may not have much to do with the realities of the situation in Gaza or Ukraine, but as John Lennon once said, "Reality leaves a lot to the imagination."



I have credited my Twitter friends at @Wildaboutmusic who made suggestions where due, and I invite you all to peacefully add your own songs for these troubled times.



Peace.



ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE - The Beatles



GIVE PEACE A CHANCE - John Lennon



GIVE ME LOVE (GIVE ME PEACE ON EARTH) - George Harrison @stlwags



PEACE IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD - Paul McCartney



PEACE DREAM - Ringo Starr



BLOWIN' IN THE WIND -- Bob Dylan @sweetrhythms



LOVE & MERCY - Brian Wilson



PEACE, LOVE & HARD LIQUOR - Unknown Hinson @carpenterbrent



(WHAT'S SO FUNNY ABOUT) PEACE, LOVE & UNDERSTANDING - Elvis Costello & The Attractions



PEACE GO WITH YOU, BROTHER (AS-SALAAM-ALAIKUM) - Gil Scott-Heron



PEACE LIKE A RIVER - Paul Simon



LET THERE BE PEACE ON EARTH - Vince Gill



ABRAHAM, MARTIN & JOHN - Dion @DawesAngeles



SO SMALL - Carrie Underwood @AshleyAnnMarch



PEACE & LOVE - Fountains Of Wayne



UNIVERSAL SOLDIER - Donovan



WE SHALL BE FREE - Garth Brooks @sarahkatbeee



TRAVELIN' SOLDIER - Dixie Chicks @Pogue009



THERE WILL NEVER BE ANY PEACE (UNTIL GOD IS SEATED AT THE CONFERENCE TABLE) -- The Chi-Lites



PEACEKEEPER - Fleetwood Mac



PEACE TRAIN - Cat Stevens @MariaSommer22



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And Now: Watch A Bunch Of People Fainting On Live TV

According to Web MD, most people who faint regain complete consciousness within a few minutes.



But as long as there's an Internet, a fainting spell can also last forever. Mandatory, a pop culture site for men, has posted an odd compilation of people passing out on live television.



It can be uncomfortable to watch and tough to look away from at the same time.



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Michelle Kwan Stars In Ad For Husband Clay Pell's Gubernatorial Campaign

Figure skating champion Michelle Kwan appears in a new television ad touting her husband Clay Pell (D) for Rhode Island governor.



"One of the reasons I'm so excited about my husband Clay Pell's candidacy is because Clay is committed to a women's equality agenda that strengthens protection for women in areas like pay equity, sexual harassment and domestic violence," Kwan says in the ad made by D.C. media firm Devine Mulvey Longabaugh.



"Clay knows Rhode Island can be ready for tomorrow by making it one of the best places for women to live and work. Clay believes what I believe -- we need equality for all women," she adds.



Pell, whose grandfather was the late Sen. Claiborne Pell (D-R.I.), announced his run in January.



Though the 32-year-old Pell is a relative newcomer in politics, he does have government experience, having worked both on President Barack Obama's national security team as a White House Fellow and later in the Department of Education. He also served in the U.S. Coast Guard.



The latest external poll, conducted in late May by WPRI 12 and the Providence Journal, shows Pell in third place behind Providence Mayor Angel Taveras and Rhode Island General Treasurer Gina Raimondo ahead of the September 9 Democratic primary.



Whoever wins the primary will challenge either Cranston Mayor Allan Fung (R) or businessman Ken Block (R) in November.



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What Hobby Lobby Shows Us About the Supreme Court and Civil Rights Laws: Winners and Losers in the Roberts Court

In its recent decision in Hobby Lobby, the conservative 5-4 majority -- Chief Justice Roberts and Justices Alito, Scalia, Thomas, and Kennedy -- did something that may appear very unusual. In divided cases, these five Justices have the reputation for interpreting very narrowly laws passed by Congress to protect civil rights. So why did they interpret so broadly the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA), a law passed by Congress to protect the important civil right of religious freedom? The answer, unfortunately, is all too clear. Comparing Hobby Lobby with the two rulings in civil rights law cases issued by the Court over the last year, the key factor that explains how the conservative majority ruled is not precedent, the language of the statute, or congressional intent, but who wins and who loses.



Let's start with last year's rulings, both of which concerned Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act which bans employment discrimination. In University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center v. Nassar, the majority ruled very narrowly in interpreting Title VII, deciding that the only way that employees can prevail on a claim that they have been fired in retaliation for raising job bias claims is to prove that they would not have been discharged "but for" the retaliatory motive. This was despite the fact that in order to strengthen Title VII, Congress added language to the law in 1991 to make clear that plaintiffs should prevail if they show that discrimination was a "motivating factor" in a job decision. As Justice Ginsburg explained in dissecting Justice Alito's attempt for the majority to draw a distinction between retaliation and other claims under Title VII, the net effect of the majority's ruling was to make it harder to prove a Title VII retaliation claim than before the 1991 law and with respect to other civil rights statutes that don't explicitly mention retaliation. The 5-4 majority had "seized on a provision adopted by Congress as part of an endeavor to strengthen Title VII," she concluded, "and turned it into a measure reducing the force of the ban on retaliation."



In Nassar, in ruling against a doctor of Middle Eastern descent in a case also involving egregious ethnic and national origin discrimination, Alito disregarded clear legislative history and language showing Congress' broad intent, as well as the interpretation of the law by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). Interestingly, towards the end of his opinion, Alito appeared to reveal a key consideration behind the majority's decision. The ruling was important, he explained, to "the fair and responsible allocation of resources in the judicial and litigation systems." After all, he pointed out, retaliation claims "are being made with ever-increasing frequency," although he did not even consider how many have been proven meritorious. Agreeing with the EEOC and the plaintiff on the "motivating factor" standard, he wrote instead, "could also contribute to the filing of frivolous claims." As Justice Ginsburg put it, the majority "appears driven by zeal to reduce the number of retaliation claims against employers."



The other 2013 Title VII ruling also reflected an extremely narrow reading of the law. Vance v. Ball State University concerned a complaint by an African-American woman that she had been subjected to racial harassment and a racially hostile work environment. Under prior Title VII Court rulings agreed to by both conservative and moderate Justices, the employer itself is often liable for such harassment claims when the harassment is committed by an employee's supervisor. But in Vance, in an opinion by Justice Alito, the familiar 5-4 Court majority significantly narrowed Title VII. It ruled that such vicarious employer liability applies only when the harassment is committed by a manager who can fire or reduce the pay or grade of the victim, not when it is committed by a manager who does not have that power but does control the day-to-day schedules, assignments, and working environment of the victim.



As Justice Ginsburg explained in dissent, the majority's holding again contradicted guidance issued by the EEOC as well as Congress' broad purpose to eliminate workplace discrimination. In fact, she pointed out, not even the university defendant in Vance itself "has advanced the restrictive definition the Court adopts." But again, Alito's opinion betrayed part of the majority's true motives. Its narrow interpretation would be "workable" and "readily applied," Alito explained. And it would promote "the limitation of employer liability in certain circumstances."



Something very different happened in the next Supreme Court case interpreting a Congressional civil rights statute: 2014's Burwell v. Hobby Lobby.



In that case, the same 5-4 majority that narrowly interpreted Title VII in Vance and Nassar adopted a very broad interpretation of the Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA). All nine Justices agreed that RFRA was enacted by Congress in response to the Supreme Court decision in Employment Division v. Smith, which restricted the protection of religious liberty by the Court under the First Amendment. But the 5-4 majority in Hobby Lobby ruled that RFRA provides "very broad protection for religious liberty" - "even broader protection than was available" under the First Amendment in pre-Smith decisions. As Justice Ginsburg put it in dissent, the majority interpreted RFRA "as a bold initiative departing from, rather than restoring, pre-Smith jurisprudence." She explained further that this broad interpretation contradicted the language of the statute, its legislative history, and a statement by the Court in a unanimous ruling in 2006 that in RFRA, Congress "adopt[ed] a statutory rule comparable to the constitutional rule rejected in Smith."



This difference in statutory interpretation was critical to the majority's ruling in Hobby Lobby -- that for-profit corporations whose owners had religious objections to contraceptives could invoke RFRA to refuse to obey the Affordable Care Act's mandate that they provide their employees with health plans under which contraceptives are available to female employees. As Justice Ginsburg explained, no previous Court decision under RFRA or the First Amendment had ever "recognized a for-profit corporation's qualification for a religious exemption" and such a ruling "surely is not grounded in the pre-Smith precedent Congress sought to preserve." The 5-4 majority's broad interpretation that RFRA applies to for-profit corporations like Hobby Lobby was obviously crucial to its holding.



In addition, however, the 5-4 majority went beyond pre-Smith case-law in another crucial respect. Before a person can claim an exemption from a generally applicable law under RFRA, he or she must prove that the law "substantially burden[s] a person's exercise of religion." According to the majority, the corporations in Hobby Lobby met that standard by demonstrating that the use of certain contraceptives that could be purchased by their employees under their health plans would seriously offend the deeply held religious beliefs of their owners. As Justice Ginsburg explained, however, that ruling conflicted with pre-Smith case law on what must be shown to prove a "substantial burden." In several pre-Smith cases, the Court had ruled that there was no "substantial burden" created by, for example, the government's use of a social security number to administer benefit programs or its requirement that social security taxes be paid, despite the genuine and sincere offense that these actions caused to some religious beliefs. As Justice Ginsburg stated, such religious "beliefs, however deeply held, do not suffice to sustain a RFRA claim," except under the extremely broad interpretation of RFRA by the 5-4 Court majority.



As in the Title VII cases, Justice Alito's opinion for the 5-4 majority in Hobby Lobby was revealing about some of the majority's underlying concerns. In explaining the majority's decision to interpret RFRA as applying to for-profit corporations, Justice Alito noted that "[w]hen rights, whether constitutional or statutory, are extended to corporations, the purpose is to protect the rights of these people" - in this case "the humans who own and control those companies" in the Hobby Lobby case. As Justice Ginsburg observed, the 5-4 majority paid little attention to the Court's pronouncement in a pre-Smith case that permitting a religious exemption to a general law for a corporation would "operate[e] to impose the employer's religious faith on the employees" of the corporation.



Even though the Supreme Court's 2013-14 rulings that interpreted civil rights laws passed by Congress may seem different, a common theme animates them all. Whether the 5-4 majority interpreted the statutes broadly or narrowly, the losers in all of them were women, minorities, and working people, and the winners were employers and corporations. In the majority's own words, the result is the "limitation of employer liability" under laws like Title VII designed to protect workers and the "protecting" of the "humans who own and control" corporations under RFRA.



Since all these rulings interpret Congressional statutes, not the Constitution, Congress clearly has the authority to reverse them. In fact, Congress has done exactly that with respect to other 5-4 rulings by the Court that misinterpreted civil rights statutes to harm women and minority workers and benefit their corporate employers. As recently as 2009, the Lily Ledbetter Fair Pay Act reversed a flawed 5-4 ruling that severely restricted workers' ability to file equal pay claims under Title VII. Congress is already considering legislation to reverse many of the effects of Hobby Lobby, a corrective effort that Senate Republicans have blocked by a filibuster to prevent the full Senate from even considering it. In our currently divided Congress, immediate prospects for the passage of such remedial legislation may not appear promising. But it is important to recognize the current 5-4 majority's pattern of favoring corporations and harming workers in its decisions interpreting federal civil rights laws, and to recognize and act on the ability to reverse these harmful rulings.



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Selena Gomez Shines In Bronze Dress With Thigh-High Slit

Selena Gomez sure cleans up nicely.



After spending her 22nd birthday in a bikini with model pal Cara Delevingne, Gomez slipped into something more sophisticated for the Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation Gala in Saint-Tropez, in southeastern France, on July 23.



The singer and actress stole the show when she hit the red carpet in a sparkly bronze dress, featuring a thigh-high slit:



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Gomez completed her glittery look with a pair of hoop earrings and metallic gold pumps.



The gala reportedly raised over $25 million for The Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation, which is dedicated to protecting the environment and endangered wildlife around the globe. The star-studded evening featured an auction and performances by Robin Thicke and Bono.





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This Old Wedding Tradition Might Rub You The Wrong Way

One glance at the Facebook wall of a recently engaged woman and it's easy to see that the overwhelming response is "congratulations." But did you know that the well wishers are actually defying tradition?



If, like us, you weren't aware of this particular piece of traditional wedding etiquette, here's the gist of it: Apparently, telling a bride "congratulations" insinuates that it was not a given that she would succeed at getting married or that she didn't have her choice of suitors. Instead, you're supposed to tell the bride "best wishes" and reserve your "congrats" for the groom, who presumably played the role of hunter and succeeded at his goal of convincing his bride to say yes.



In a word? Oy.



According to lifestyle and etiquette expert Elaine Swann, author of Let Crazy Be Crazy, this tradition dates back to the Victorian era but has since fallen out of the realm of common knowledge. You might have caught a reference to the "congratulations" faux pas on the Season 4 finale of "Mad Men," when Don Draper announces his engagement to Megan at his office and Pete Campbell corrects a co-worker, "You don't say 'congratulations' to the bride -- you say 'best wishes.' Congratulations, Don!" If Pete had to keep folks in check over this etiquette rule back in the 1960s, what about now?



"There isn't anything that has said, 'OK, we don't have to do this anymore,'" said Swann. "It's just that, today, most brides aren't even aware of the tradition."



Plus, with more women pushing against old patriarchal norms and proposing to men themselves, it feels silly to abide by such an outdated etiquette rule. But Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners herself, offered up another way to look at the tradition in her book Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. Martin explains why brides aren't likely to be offended whether you insist on saying "congratulations" or "best wishes":



This is not because the courtship patterns have changed. Even if the lady proposes to the gentleman on bended knee, Miss Manners and other polite people should figure he is lucky to get her. Nor is it entirely because those who offer congratulations mean well but don't know the rule and it would be churlish to quibble.



It is because today's brides hear far worse. Those who are repeatedly told "It's about time!" and asked "Are you pregnant?" are only too happy to accept kind thoughts, however they are phrased.





A good rule of thumb, according to Swann, is to keep your well-wishes consistent between the bride and groom: If you say "best wishes" to the bride, then make sure you say it to the groom, too. Oh, and avoid following that with "finally."



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Washington Post Correspondent Jason Rezaian, Three Others, Reportedly Detained In Iran

NEW YORK -- Jason Rezaian, the Tehran correspondent for The Washington Post, appears to be detained in Iran, the paper revealed Thursday.



The Post reported that his wife, Yeganeh Salehi, and two others were also detained Tuesday evening. Rezaian holds dual American and Iranian citizenship, while Salehi, a correspondent for the United Arab Emirates-based newspaper The National, is an Iranian citizen and has applied for U.S. permanent residency.



The Post did not name the two other American citizens detained, but identified them as freelance photojournalists.



It’s unclear why Iranian authorities would detain them. State Department spokeswoman Marie Harf told the Post that the government is aware of reports of the detentions, but did not provide additional information.



Douglas Jehl, the Post’s foreign editor, said in a statement to HuffPost that the paper “received credible reports” the four are being held.



“We are deeply troubled by this news and are concerned for the welfare of Jason, Yageneh and two others said to have been detained with them,” Jehl said. “Jason is an experienced, knowledgeable reporter who deserves protection and whose work merits respect.”



Rezaian has been based in Iran since 2008 and with the Post since 2012. He most recently reported Friday from Vienna on talks over Iran’s nuclear program.



Laura Rozen, a reporter with Al Monitor, tweeted that she saw Rezaian on Saturday and that he was planning to fly back that night to Tehran.



Thomas Erdbrink , the Tehran bureau chief for the New York Times, condemned the arrest, and the Committee to Protect Journalists said it was "alarmed" by the Post's report.



"We call on Iranian authorities to immediately explain why Jason Rezaian, Yeganeh Salehi, and two other journalists have been detained, and we call for their immediate release," said Sherif Mansour, the organization's Middle East and North Africa program coordinator, in a statement. "Iran has a dismal record with regard to its treatment of imprisoned journalists. We hold the Iranian government responsible for the safety of these four."



Iran, an authoritarian regime, strictly controls its domestic media and has detained foreign journalists in the past. There are currently 35 journalists in prison in Iran, according to CPJ.



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Suicidal Bombers Over Gaza and a World Coming Apart

For years, the term "suicide bombers" has been synonymous with terrorist attacks, especially in Israel. The idea of a martyr willing to give his life for a cause while taking out an "enemy" became a feature of modern conflict especially with resistance movements confronting modern armies.



Oddly enough, the phrase, seems to have blown back today into Israel itself, as its military engages in a much deadlier "suicide mission," acting like Ahab in Melville's Moby Dick determined to slay the monster whale while killing themselves.



First, there are the costs to Israel's economy: With major airlines canceling flights, there goes the summer tourist season.



Next, Deutsche Welle reports: "The conflict has so far cost Israel's defense budget more than a billion shekels, some 200 million euros."



Eitan Avriel, of the business magazine The Marker, suspects that the army will reclaim this money from the government.



"The government has already allocated 400 million shekels to support the communities living along the border with the Gaza Strip," says Eitan. However, the greatest loss is the decline in the gross national product, he stressed, pointing out that consumption has virtually halved."



Needless to say, these costs are hardly as dire as the ones being suffered by the people of Gaza, an overcrowded city that is being destroyed with a growing loss of life. Israel's casualties are also on the rise.



The Israeli newspaper Haaretz reports: "The defense establishment has already presented a request for a supplemental allocation of a billion shekels to this year's defense budget, as a result of the conflict. In addition, it is estimated that the economy has sustained another 1.2 billion shekels in economic damage in the form of losses suffered by businesses, lost workdays and direct physical damage sustained in Israel as a result of the hostilities."



Third, Israel's supporters seem more fanatic and irrational than ever, oblivious to the human costs of its "operation" and eager to blame the victims of their bombers as "human shields" or legitimate targets, They are also worried about an Iraq replay: an invasion that looked like an easy victory at the start of the "operation" beginning, as it drags on, to look very different, according to the Israeli writer Gilad Altzom:



"In spite of clear Israeli technological superiority and firepower, the Palestinian militants are winning the battle on the ground and they have even managed to move the battle to Israeli territory. In addition, the barrage of rockets on Tel Aviv doesn't seem to stop.



IDF's defeat in Gaza leaves the Jewish State with no hope. The moral is simple. If you insist on living on someone else's land, military might is an essential ingredient to discourage the dispossessed from acting to reclaim their rights. The level of IDF casualties and the number of bodies of Israeli elite soldiers returning home in coffins send a clear message to both Israelis and Palestinians. Israeli military superiority belongs to the past. There is no future for the Jews-only-State in Palestine; they may have to try somewhere else."



Commenting on this notion of an Israeli defeat, Marc H. Ellis notes: "...This analysis rests on the assumption that Israel goes to war to win -- as in defeat the enemy once and for all. This assumption is false. No Israeli military analyst thinks Israel will win the Gaza war in the traditional sense of that term. Rather Israel goes to war to buy time, to further de-develop Palestinian society and to go about its business elsewhere, say in the West Bank."



That sounds convincing, except every war produces unanticipated impacts and consequences. Remember how our "victory" over Russia In Afghanistan by the arming the Mujahadin resulted in war lords destroying the country with 50,000 dead and led to the rise of the Taliban and al Qaeda?



This madness of this suicidal war is playing itself out on every TV screen (except those in Britain and the US that sanitize it). Before it's over, it will surely further harm Israel's standing in the world as well as the image of its patron, the United States.



While Washington is busy lecturing Russia on a loss of human life in that plane crash (whose cause has yet to be determined by any impartial body), they are enabling the deadly Israeli bombardment targeting civilians, and now, after so much damage has been done, claim to want to stop it.



In Geneva, the UN has reopened the question of war crimes that never seem to be prosecuted when it comes to Israel, of course, to give the appearance of neutrality Hamas is also criticized as if the massive violence of the invader and the pathetic response of the victim can be equated.



World Crunch reports: "UN human rights commissioner Navi Pillay opened the meeting (of the UN Human Rights Commission, charging that Israel may be committing war crimes in Gaza, where its punitive house demolitions and killing of children raise the 'strong possibility' that it is violating international law, according to AFP."



Predictably, and to insure "balance" need for for good PR, she also condemned Hamas for its "indiscriminate attacks."



As the war wars on, few in the media bother to ask what else may be at stake. Nafeez Ahmad explains in the Guardian: "Since the discovery of oil and gas in the Occupied Territories, resource competition has increasingly been at the heart of the conflict, motivated largely by Israel's increasing domestic energy woes.



Mark Turner, founder of the Research Journalism Initiative, reported that the siege of Gaza and ensuing military pressure was designed to "eliminate" Hamas as "a viable political entity in Gaza" to generate a "political climate" conducive to a gas deal."



Now, Gaza, has something more in common than bloodletting with the Ukraine: gas. As Europe is prodded by the US into backing harsh new sanctions on Russia, Germany is already threatened with a potential loss of 25,000 jobs.



Quiet as its kept -- and it is being kept quiet -- Wall Street is furious over the new BRICS bank initiative to challenge American dominance of the global economy. Could that be related to Obama's is furiously trying to punish Putin? We may never know since no one in the media seems to be investigating.



Meanwhile, The Telegraph is reporting: "The Dollar's 70 year old dominance is coming to an end."



"To understand politics and power it pays to follow the money. And for the past 70 years, the dollar has ruled the roost. This won't change anytime soon. Something just took place, though, which illustrates that dollar reserve currency status won't last forever and could be seriously diluted. Last week, seven decades on from Bretton Woods, the governments of Brazil, Russia, India and China led a conference in the Brazilian city of Fortaleza to mark the establishment of a new development bank that, whatever diplomatic niceties are put on it, is intent on competing with the IMF and World Bank.



America's GDP, incidentally, was $16.8 trillion on World Bank numbers, and China's was $16.2 trillion -- within a whisker of knocking the US off its perch. The balance of global economic power is on a knife edge. Tomorrow is almost today."



So now, let's add economic suicide to the list of what we have to worry about. Which suicide hotline should we call?



News Dissector Danny Schechter blogs daily at NewsDissector.net and edits Mediachannel.org. Comments to dissector@mediachannel.org



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Hoda And Kathie Lee's Reaction To 'Fifty Shades Of Grey' Trailer Is Spot On

The "Fifty Shades of Grey" trailer officially dropped on Thursday, and it has already caused quite a lot of chatter.



And if there was ever a reaction to sum up all reactions, it's this one right here:







"Hide the children...and your dogs," Gifford warned before playing the clip.



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Obama Shuts Out White House Reporters Yet Again

White House reporters were barred from a meeting between President Obama and donors for the Democratic House Majority PAC on Wednesday, Politico reported.



Members of the press traveled with the President to the West Coast on Tuesday where he was set to attend the Senate Majority PAC fundraiser. But upon arrival, the media were reportedly left behind and prohibited from getting near the event. On Wednesday, while Obama met with donors from the House Majority PAC, the reporters were not even told where the meeting was taking place.



“We think these fundraisers ought to be open to at least some scrutiny, because the president’s participation in them is fundamentally public in nature," White House Correspondents’ Association president Christi Parsons said. “Denying access to him in that setting undermines the public’s ability to independently monitor and see what its government is doing."



The press corps has rallied together in recent months to protest restrictions on White House access, but despite their demands they continue to be locked out of major events in and out of the Oval Office. The White House Correspondents Association filed a formal complaint with press secretary Josh Earnest on Tuesday regarding the 45th anniversary of the day Apollo 11 landed on the moon. Obama met with astronauts Buzz Aldrin and Michael Collins, but only a very small number of photographers were allowed to attend.



Earnest said in a press briefing Tuesday that the limited access was due to the President's "busy schedule" and an inability to "accommodate TV cameras this time."



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DĂ©jĂ  Vu All Over Again: From Akin to Ellmers to Aiken

In 2012, then Senate candidate Todd Akin's statement that "legitimate rape" rarely causes pregnancy unleashed a storm of media controversy, and lost him the support of many in his party.



Flash forward to last week. North Carolina Congresswoman Renee Ellmers, who is running against Clay Aiken this November, urged the Republican Party, especially men in the party, to bring policy discussion "down to a woman's level."



"Men do tend to talk about things on a much higher level," Ellmers said. "Many of my male colleagues, when they go to the House floor, you know, they've got some pie chart or graph behind them and they're talking about trillions of dollars and, you know, how the debt is awful and, you know... We need our male colleagues to understand that if you can bring it down to a woman's level and what everything that she is balancing in her life -- that's the way to go."



Clearly, Ellmers hasn't been paying attention to the negative reactions other politicians have incurred when they trivialized rape and reinforced gender stereotypes? Is she so naĂŻve to believe that just because she was talking at a Republican gathering the Internet wouldn't let the world in on her statements? Doesn't she know there are women astronauts now and cabinet members, that women run Fortune 500 companies, that, in fact, women are presidents in a number of countries... maybe our own before too long. Not that we don't have a long way to go before full equality.



Sure women and men are different. Recent brain science is showing just how different. Women tend to have more emotional, psychological and fluid intelligence, pay attention to details more, are more willing to ask for feedback, to hold authority in a more collaborative, less top-down manner, to go to the doctor when their health seems challenged... which may be one reason we live longer than men -- a kind of intelligence the world really needs, in fact. It's not that women are better than men, it's just that we're not having to constantly prove our masculinity. What bothers me is that Ellmers equates gender difference with inferiority -- men speak on a "higher" level and women can only understand on a "lower" level. Feels like she's trying to prove her masculinity.



Now to Todd Akin. Sure, Ellmer's comments have sparked some controversy, but definitely not as much as if a man were to make the same comment. But are we supposed to give Ellmers a pass just because she's a woman? As my friend Gloria Steinem wisely put it, "If Clay Aiken said women can't read pie charts, it might lose him the election. It should lose it for Renee Ellmers, too."



Where does that leave Clay Aiken? Todd Akin showed that out of touch politicians are vulnerable. It's déjà vu with Ellmers. Clay Aiken should take note.



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The Most Important Lesson I Learned in My First Year of Marriage

As my wife and I approach our first anniversary, I've taken some time to think about all the lessons I've learned over the past year (let's be honest -- all the lessons my wife has taught me). It's not been difficult, since I've recorded many of them on my blog.



There's one lesson I've yet to write about, though. And I happen to believe it's the most important lesson I learned in my first year of marriage.



No, it doesn't have to do with avoiding conflict, like much of what I learned. Instead, it involves the other side of the coin -- resolution.



In any relationship, conflict is inevitable. This is especially true of marriage.



Think of it like a chemical reaction. With marriage, two people are linked together, and in that state they proceed through life -- sleeping, eating, doing everything side by side. Tension is bound to arise.



While conflict comes naturally, resolution does not. It takes practice and skill and work. Hopefully with time we get better at it.



Early in our marriage, I thought forgiveness led to resolution.



My wife and I would get into an argument, and after a while, both of us usually ended up apologizing for something we'd done. What I noticed, though, is while we'd technically forgiven each other, hurt and resentment and bitterness often lingered. Which, of course, led to more conflict.



Forgiveness alone is never enough, because it only pardons a wrong.



Forgiveness is a transaction -- a canceling of a debt, a remission for a wrong. It doesn't heal a wound. It only excuses what caused the wound. But the wound still exists -- aching, throbbing, festering.



Bitterness compounds bitterness. Hurt compounds hurt. Anger compounds anger.



Before long, there's a deep divide separating husband and wife.



Another step is necessary to reach resolution. To make what was once, true again.



That step is reconciliation. And every conflict -- at least every healthy conflict -- must end with it.



Reconciliation takes what is broken and brings healing.



Reconciliation transforms bitterness into peace, resentfulness into harmony, division into unity. Every reconciliation is an allegory of the Resurrection. By its nature, it brings what is dead back to life.



Of course, reconciliation is never easy. It's so much harder than simply apologizing and forgiving. It takes time and patience and humility and, most of all, mutual willingness.



And this is costly -- exceedingly costly -- because it requires surrendering everything that stands between and replacing it with love. Unconditionally.



But reconciliation is perhaps the most beautiful interaction in any relationship. It is the saving resolution to a dramatic crisis. It is the long-awaited reunion of two lost souls. It is the unforeseen twist to a tragedy-turned-romance.



And it is the most important lesson I learned in my first year of marriage.



This post was previously published at PaulPerkins.com.


How have you experienced the transforming power of reconciliation? Comment below.



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Six Year Blues

Almost every president in recent history has experienced what I like to call "The six-year blues." For Reagan it was Iran-Contra, for Clinton it was Monica Lewinsky, and for George W. Bush, it was Iraq and Afghanistan.






President's Truman and Johnson decided they didn't want to run for a second elected term because they were so unpopular. Nixon needs no explanation.






And now, President Obama is suffering from his own version of "the blues." With poll numbers sitting at his lows and a Congress that has basically tuned him out. And even worse, it seems much of the public isn't listening either.






We've seen this play out before. But what sets this president apart from those before him is that he came into office with no apparent vision on the foreign policy front, other than a promise to get us out of wars abroad. Oh, and shutting down Guantanamo. Which still hasn't happened.






Six years in and many wonder why the Obama administration is always reacting rather than leading.






For a president that has enough time to attend multiple high-dollar fundraisers this week, you'd think he might take just a moment to speak directly to the American people about our country's role in some gravely serious situations abroad.






In just the past two weeks it feels like the world is crumbling around us. We've seen the downing of Malaysia Flight 17, Israel's ground invasion against militants in Gaza, and the ongoing uncertainty of ISIS gaining strength in Iraq. If you're anything like me, you're feeling anxious and nervous about how all of this will end.






More than ever, the world is crying out for bold decisive leadership. And they turn to us, the United States, to stand up and lead the way. But President Obama remains cautious and uncertain. Waiting for the dust to settle to see where public opinion falls before taking a stand of his own.






Look, America is war-weary thanks to Iraq and Afghanistan.






I get that. But that doesn't mean we can't act. Right now we are playing from fear and isolation.






Even The Root, a site often on the president's side, wants to be lead. They write, "Mr. President, simply avoiding mistakes is not foreign policy."






It makes the administration seem weak and feckless. The sense that the president is simply reacting to each crisis as it occurs, rather than harnessing a comprehensive global strategy that accommodates the ever-changing political realities of the 21st century, is damaging Obama's foreign policy hopes and his domestic policy credibility.





Mr. President, for too long your approach to foreign policy has been reactive, not proactive. It feels like we're always playing catch-up.






Now is the time to tell us what it is you want us to do. What are our goals? What is most important to us? And how are we going to get there?






Now is the time to make us feel safe and remind the world that we are a strong and resilient nation.






Democratic and Republican presidents did so during the Cold War. Mr. President, take charge and I as one Republican would be willing to follow.






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